Soulful Weddings: When Plan B is better than A-OK
Friday, April 22, 2016 at 2:59PM I spent last weekend in Brooklyn with my best friend and her daughter whose wedding I officiated last October. Helene and her husband, Zach, were celebrating six months of marriage by going on their honeymoon. Both have such busy lives and would we want it any other way!
Helene and Zach wed in Indiana on a beautiful homestead complete with a rustic charming barn.
Helene's Plan A dream had been to have a Maine seaside ceremony but for a number of reasons the wedding was moved to Hoosier Land. It made sense. Zach and Helene met in Bloomington when they were attending University of Indiana. Zach was photograhing the Women's Cross Country and Helene literally caught his eye as she ran by.
Both Helene and Zach have roots in Indiana- deep roots. So the dreamy seaside summer wedding was replaced with the Autumnal October rustic wedding on the lush grounds of Zach's father's home.
Plan B was to have a garden ceremony, cocktails on the deck, dinner in the tent and dancing in the barn. But Hurricane Joquin wasn't cooperating with plan B. It was rainy and cold even in Indiana far from where Joquin was doing his damage.
The day before the wedding Plan C emerged with much consternation and concern. Luckily, the bride was in her bubble swept away by her sister to have fun with her bridesmaids on a scavenger hunt in Indianapolis. When she did arrive the bubble persisted as flowers were being arranged by the moms and friends.
I highly recommend 'the bridal bubble.' At this point it is best to keep her majesty in her ivory tower far from the madness of the crowd.
As for where the ceremony would take place, it was a game day call. The barn was ready. Strung with fairy lights and adorned with flowers. The bridal party was to process down from the hayloft to be met by the groomsmen at the bottom of the steps.
Those who needed a seat sat on hay bales. It was intimate and enchanting. Everyone was bathed in a warm golden light chatting up a storm before the proceedings. Plan C was even better than B.
Helene says she is now the go-to- gal when her friends get engaged. They bring their worries to her. Those plan A wedding dreams that may be thwarted by forces beyond the control of even the most determined brides and grooms.
Helene reassures them with all of her six months of wifely wisdom,
"What a great metaphor for marriage. By letting go of expectations plan B or even C can be better than your wildest dreams."
Happy six months anniversary!
Keep those wildest dreams coming!
