This Cape Cod wedding celebrant wants to share some insights about how to get from "yes" to having a marriage to bless. After the Big Question is popped a series of other questions begin to pop up. When, where, how many, and who will preside are a few questions that need to be answered as you plan your Big Day.
My first suggestion is let the depth of the moment sink in. You have just said yes to a lifechanging proposal. This is an extraordinary experience and should be honored as such. Don't let planning your wedding day interfere with your upcoming marriage.
On the other hand there are some couples for whom a shorter engagement period feels just right. Prioritize what is important to each of you: A date that is significant or a place that holds your heart.
Andrea and Arthur Tie the Knot at Wychmere Harbor last June
Here are some tips on how to tie the knot without getting tied up in knots. It is a challenge, the first of many you'll face as a united front of two. Keep a sense of humor. Have a word or face or gesture that cracks the two of you up when stress rears it's head.
It is such a great preparation for the state of marriage. A chance to learn so much about one another and how you make decisions.
Keep a beginner's mind. If this is your first wedding you may have held for quite some time a vision of your dream wedding day. If that vision doesn't jib with your fiancee's vision or lack of the same, cultivate big-heartedness- be open and listen, be ready to give and give-in. The key to happiness.
Catch it and take some time off if it feels like a runaway wedding - out of your hands and no longer reflecting who you are as a couple.
There will be conflicts to work through, that is normal, but remember -Love Prevails!
Get to know the person who is presiding over your ceremony so you trust them. The ceremony is one part of your day that is all about a sweet surrender. You are about to be carried over a threshold into the state of matrimony. How cool is that!
Enough for now. Small portions are easier to digest.
Thanks to Helene and Zack for the inspiration for this posting. And Maggie for the darling
"He asked and she said yes!"
Keep happy!
Kathleen at Soulful Wedding Ceremonies
Thursday, January 12, 2017 at 7:16PM 
Lovely to land the Silver for Best Cape Cod Wedding Celebrant from Borrowed and Blue. I am honored to be among so many other great Cape Cod Vendors from Organic Photography to Harborview Studios and Borsari Gallery as well as, Connie at The Perfect Plan. I am doing less big time advertising this year but have stuck with this site because of their fine photographic focus. It seems the couples that were meant to find me always do.