Weddings on Cape Cod: Wellfleet

A wedding at Chequessett - let's bless it !
One of my favorites spots to Tie the Knot- Chequessett Yacht and Beach Club 

Sweet Simplicity: Weddings that Warm the Heart

From Lakeside Camps to salty splendor, simply lovely weddings that warm the heart.

Sweet July Weddings on Cape Cod and beyond

When last I wrote, spring was still an illusive dream. In early summer we had some heat but since the July 6th thunder storm each day's beauty has been unparallled. Tempertures in the low 80's or upper 70's sun warming after you get out of the bay, and the greening of this peninsula with bursts of hydrangeas and roses makes us all glad to be alive. I know when the change happened because on July 6th, a wedding planned for the garden at Commanders Mansion in Watertown was moved inside to the parlor.

To the background of occasional thunder claps and a well timed bicycle bell,

 the couple 'pledged their troth.' Having described their nuptial theme as "Victorian Super- Hero" the atmosphere and weather was spot-on. I will share some photos when they arrive but for now let it suffice to say, it was a transfomational day! 

Here is their sweet thank you note:

Dear Kathleen,

We did it!! As Wes and I bask in the glow of such a lovely and perfect wedding day we are so very grateful for the big part you played in crossing us into the "country of marriage". From our first phone call to you handing me a tissue to wipe Wes' sweating brow during our vows, your presence radiated the warmth and calm reassurance we/I needed to keep "going in". 

I will happily share some of the photos with you when we receive them in a few weeks -- what a day! 

So thankful for you!

Love,

Lynn & Wes

Spring has Sprung (somewhere)

March has been colder and snowier than February here on Cape Cod. My first wedding of 2018 was back in January on the ice flows of Cape Cod Bay. One of my other favorite winter weddings was for this couple below, Miranda and Michael, some years ago now. In this photo by Julia Cumes there is snow on the tidal flats but you really can't tell. But Spring has sprung somewhere and the season will soon be upon us. If you are engaged and would like to talk with me give me a call or email. We can see if this soulful wedding interfaith minister is the right person to preside over your nuptials! In the meantime, enjoy being totally engaged!.

Love: Lesson One

I recently heard a story on NPR about how educators at Harvard are encouraging curriculum on Love Relationships. This is to be paired with sex education. Made sense to me. For isn't it true- what the world needs now is love sweet love. With social networking taking the place of face to face encounters we become wary of what may potentially be moments of awkwardness. Isn't that a huge fear, that we may become tongue tied or make a fool of ourselves. Guess what.... that vulnerability,

is a big part of what love does. It builds strength and understanding. Being a fool for love is not for the faint-hearted or weak.  

When I ask couples what they fell for in one another, the answer has never been insincerity. What is more alluring are those first fumbled attempts at conversation filled with the attraction charged silence. On a text the sweet squirming cannot be communicated. Here is my first lesson on love: AWKWARD IS OKAY infact it is QUITE ATTRACTIVE and AUTHENTIC.

And yes, it can be a cornerstone of a loving relationship.

Fear of intimacy paired with social anxiety, somehow we have become more comfortable talking about relationships and intimacy than actual connecting authentically. As the poet David Whyte says "The conversation isn't about the relationship, it IS the relationship." So let's become more daring and patient, as we open ourselves to true intimacy. Educate ourselves about the mystical working of the heart no matter how inexpert we are. Let's embrace a beginner's mind and explore bravely, learning the lessons of love, one awkward moment at a time.