Sweet Simplicity: Wedding Ceremony by the Sea

This Cape Cod Wedding Ceremony Celebrant/ Officiant/ Interfaith Minister so enjoyed presiding over this Simply Sweet and Elegant wedding in March at Chatham Bars Inn Boathouse. This couple were truly wanting to keep it simple and as stress free as possible. The only moment of stress was when the darling flowergirl didn't want to let go of her grandfather's hand for one instant. When that connection was re-established the ceremony went on with out a hitch. So now Cheryl and Jon are happily hitched. May they have many, many years of marital harmony and fun together. Thank you Kate of KML Photography http://www.kmlphotography.net/

Writing your own vows- I Plight Thee my Troth

This Cape Cod Wedding Celebrant/officiant/interfaith minister often gets the question, "How do we write our own vows? I want to say something but my words just come out a jumble."

Love is hard to put into words but lets focus on vows. The essential vow in the marriage rite is the vow to remain faithful and true to the one you have chosen above all the rest.

This is so simple yet so profound.      "I plight (pledge) thee my Troth (Truth.)

Across all cultures and religions  this remains the truth of the marriage ceremony." I pledge to be true to you. I pledge my fidelity "-old fashion words that are essential to the rite of marriage.  With that said you have the freedom and creativity to express yourself and your love in a way that feels real and natural. 

When couples attempt to write their own vows it turns out what they usually want to express is the love in their hearts and the reason for their choice in marriage. This is perfectly fitting. In other words you are saying, "Here is why I chose you and here is what I promise.

If we cover the essential vow in your ceremony you are free to say what you feel, make some extra promises that are unique to your relationship. You can have some fun with this. It is said that the profound and sublime belly up to the same bar as the sweetly ridiculous. It is actually the halllmark of a true ceremony and real rite of passage.

 

This Cape Cod Wedding Officiant /Celebrant /Interfaith Minister....

 felt inspired by this quote today especially the dance like Zorba part!

September 24, 2013 Crack yourself open! What use is it to continue to hide behind your facades and roles? Why waste your energy playing games? Isn't it time to cry your tears; to shout your passion; to dance like Zorba; and to let your soul touch the Soul of the world?                                     - William Martin, The Sage's Tao Te Ching

A wedding ceremony can be like this ....full of happy tears, shouting passion, dancing like Zorba, as two souls touch the Soul of the World.

At the first wedding I officiated in October of 2000 at the Dennis Inn, the Groom's Greek family all invited us into their circle for some dancing.  We did dance like Zorba!  I also remember the bride, Kathy, shaking a tail feather, with my husband and our ten yr.old son, to the rousing sounds of the classic, Love Shack. Now that was a moment not to be missed! 

At a ceremony for Kathleen and Ben in 2010 (see Happy Anniversary a few blogs ago) we had a dancer on the tidal flats. He was related to the groom and right before the ceremony he sort of swirled out on to the sands and began to dance. He said later it was he, who warded off the rain. The lovely Julia Cumes caught it on camera. 

 After all my years as a nurse and my work as an Interfaith Chaplain, I pinch myself each morning and say," No,  its not a dream.. You really do get to preside over wedding ceremonies as a profession "- WOW. 

So let's all crack ourselves open and see what emerges. I bet butterflies have to pinch themselves when, each morning, they are sunning their wings.

So let's shout out our passions and perhaps some of you out there may find that in that shouting, comes the quiet realization that you have found the one you love, that you have already chosen the one you want to love above all the rest!  

 Happy Autumn everyone! Here are Erika and Andrew shouting out their passion, as they are pronounced husband and wife, last October at the Wequassett Inn on Cape Cod.